You have been extra difficult the past two weeks. My confidence in being your mother is wavering. I have fallen into the old trap of measuring my successes on how the world sees me.
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
A Girl and Her Bandages
A few years or so ago, my Sadie discovered what fun it is to play with ace bandages. Being one to make a fuss over letting her do something out of the norm, I put it away so that we would have it when the time came that we really needed to use it.
About six months ago, Sadie had a discussion with her great-grandmother. I have no idea how the topic came about. Oh wait. Yes, I do. My great-grandmother had an ace bandage on her leg covering a wound. Ever-curious Sadie asked her multiple questions including where she got her bandage. Imagine Sadie's glee when she learned that my great-grandmother was a collector of such bandages and was happy to pass a small tub of various sized bandages to Sadie.
Never to forget this momentous occasion, Sadie asked repeatedly when we could go see Gram to get her new toys. We had a swim meet in my great-grandmother's neighborhood and of course, stopped by her house after the meet. Sadie reminded me about the bandages and I dug through my grandmother's hall closet and collected more than 12 packed and rolled lightly tan-pink colored elastic bandages.
On the way home, I knew that I would need to set some ground rules on where and when to play with the bandages. 1) No wearing them in public 2) Do not put them anywhere but on arms and legs (certainly not necks) 3) Do not put them on your siblings unless requested and 4) Do not put them on the dog.
After much pleading, I relented and let Sadie wear one bandage out in public. She concocted some ridiculous story about tripping on a toy. Or, was it at the pool? I can't remember as the story changed faster than the number of our national debt, but each time it was met with a sympathetic nod by a stranger, and my eye rolling and sigh. She was thrilled.
About six months ago, Sadie had a discussion with her great-grandmother. I have no idea how the topic came about. Oh wait. Yes, I do. My great-grandmother had an ace bandage on her leg covering a wound. Ever-curious Sadie asked her multiple questions including where she got her bandage. Imagine Sadie's glee when she learned that my great-grandmother was a collector of such bandages and was happy to pass a small tub of various sized bandages to Sadie.
Never to forget this momentous occasion, Sadie asked repeatedly when we could go see Gram to get her new toys. We had a swim meet in my great-grandmother's neighborhood and of course, stopped by her house after the meet. Sadie reminded me about the bandages and I dug through my grandmother's hall closet and collected more than 12 packed and rolled lightly tan-pink colored elastic bandages.
On the way home, I knew that I would need to set some ground rules on where and when to play with the bandages. 1) No wearing them in public 2) Do not put them anywhere but on arms and legs (certainly not necks) 3) Do not put them on your siblings unless requested and 4) Do not put them on the dog.
After much pleading, I relented and let Sadie wear one bandage out in public. She concocted some ridiculous story about tripping on a toy. Or, was it at the pool? I can't remember as the story changed faster than the number of our national debt, but each time it was met with a sympathetic nod by a stranger, and my eye rolling and sigh. She was thrilled.
I don't know where to begin with all that has happened this summer. I feel like I have missed it with all that whirled by us in June.
After our trip overseas, the swim team season was in full swing and I learned a multitude of valuable lessons that I list here to prompt myself next summer.
1) Our year round swim program is really the only practice I should make mandatory. I noticed some deterioration to the kids' strokes as the season progressed and although the kids had a lot of fun at their summer team practices, they need the consistency of their year round coach more.
2) The fact that some children do not like ice cream, pizza, spaghetti, waffles or chicken fingers (versus nuggets which they do like) is incomprehensible to me.
3) Three swim teams is entirely too many.
4) Even your sweetest child has the propensity to cut her own hair, into a long mullet, trying to look like her sister.
5) Childhood friends just end up being the best friends you ever had.
6) Drama is still quite active in the world. I thank God that for the past several years I have been removed from it. It's absence in my life made that reality sting a little more than I would have liked. I need to perk up at the clues when it is coming and...RUN.
7) Speaking of running, I should practice that more often. If my heart is uneasy and my brain says something is not right, I should remove myself from the situation. Well, I think it is probably better to sum it up in the term, "slink quickly and quietly away." Do you see a theme forming here?
8) Getting a child's opinion is never necessary.
9) Sports bring out the best in people...and the worst.
10) My husband wants us around a lot more than I thought he did.
11) I am not sure that I buy that labeling someone gives them the right not to mature.
12) You are never too old for a night in a tree house.
13) It is imperative for me to not be swayed by people's opinion of my own children.
14) Hanging at home is surprisingly enjoyable, highly productive and extraordinarily stress-free.
15) Sometimes I am not as strong as I thought I was in who I am. High school insecurities have not been in my line of vision since well, high school. Why now? I should quietly slink away from those make me feel this way.
16) "Hair" is one of the last fights I will have with my children. Arrow-shaped mohawks are actually quite cool.
17) Growing a garden has brought me much joy and delight. Passing along produce to others is the cherry on the top.
18) My tendency to yell, has in turn, created yellers. It needs to stop.
19) Sunflowers are precious to my soul. Having one growing facing into my window instead of the sun is priceless.
20) Like 99% of all mothers, my children are the most valued things in my life. I will fight for them and protect them with everything I have. It is tough to walk away when you feel that is being questioned.
After our trip overseas, the swim team season was in full swing and I learned a multitude of valuable lessons that I list here to prompt myself next summer.
1) Our year round swim program is really the only practice I should make mandatory. I noticed some deterioration to the kids' strokes as the season progressed and although the kids had a lot of fun at their summer team practices, they need the consistency of their year round coach more.
2) The fact that some children do not like ice cream, pizza, spaghetti, waffles or chicken fingers (versus nuggets which they do like) is incomprehensible to me.
3) Three swim teams is entirely too many.
4) Even your sweetest child has the propensity to cut her own hair, into a long mullet, trying to look like her sister.
5) Childhood friends just end up being the best friends you ever had.
6) Drama is still quite active in the world. I thank God that for the past several years I have been removed from it. It's absence in my life made that reality sting a little more than I would have liked. I need to perk up at the clues when it is coming and...RUN.
7) Speaking of running, I should practice that more often. If my heart is uneasy and my brain says something is not right, I should remove myself from the situation. Well, I think it is probably better to sum it up in the term, "slink quickly and quietly away." Do you see a theme forming here?
8) Getting a child's opinion is never necessary.
9) Sports bring out the best in people...and the worst.
10) My husband wants us around a lot more than I thought he did.
11) I am not sure that I buy that labeling someone gives them the right not to mature.
12) You are never too old for a night in a tree house.
13) It is imperative for me to not be swayed by people's opinion of my own children.
14) Hanging at home is surprisingly enjoyable, highly productive and extraordinarily stress-free.
15) Sometimes I am not as strong as I thought I was in who I am. High school insecurities have not been in my line of vision since well, high school. Why now? I should quietly slink away from those make me feel this way.
16) "Hair" is one of the last fights I will have with my children. Arrow-shaped mohawks are actually quite cool.
17) Growing a garden has brought me much joy and delight. Passing along produce to others is the cherry on the top.
18) My tendency to yell, has in turn, created yellers. It needs to stop.
19) Sunflowers are precious to my soul. Having one growing facing into my window instead of the sun is priceless.
20) Like 99% of all mothers, my children are the most valued things in my life. I will fight for them and protect them with everything I have. It is tough to walk away when you feel that is being questioned.
Thursday, June 24, 2010
A good old-fashioned release of emotions
Ever felt like you wanted a do-over? Or better yet, just wanted to pretend that world outside your house didn't exist? The pressure cooker has hit its peak, or is it obvious?
I do not like drama and for the most part of my more mature life have done well to avoid it. Something happened in the last 2 months, however, and I have been sucked in like a black hole. Sometimes I have kept my feelings internal, sometimes I have not been able to contain them. Either way, I am having a hard time letting what others say not fester in that pot o' muck inside me.
I like blending into the background, skirting in the shadows, not making waves, being content with what I know and who I am. That has not happened lately and frankly, every time I turn around something or someone is figuratively slapping me in the face. Criticism...left and right. Stingers about my unruly kids, some ridiculous mess about a swim team, where my kids are swimming, questioning how much I really care about my kids, how much time I am spending away from my house, or too much time devoted to a worth cause, whispers of my name with darting eyes...yes, I see it.
I guess I have come to the conclusion that I am around a lot of people who are still relatively new to me. They don't know me and my heart - just as I don't know theirs. Therefore, they interpret actions, statements, etc. to be very different than my intentions. Gossip, morals, values, life's purposes and foci - all swirling around into some really bizarre and challenging outcomes and situations. I feel very out of sorts in every environment this summer. The perception is that I misstep at every turn and there is some sort of satisfaction at it being pointed out to me.
Maybe stick a fork in me. I am D-O-N-E.
I do not like drama and for the most part of my more mature life have done well to avoid it. Something happened in the last 2 months, however, and I have been sucked in like a black hole. Sometimes I have kept my feelings internal, sometimes I have not been able to contain them. Either way, I am having a hard time letting what others say not fester in that pot o' muck inside me.
I like blending into the background, skirting in the shadows, not making waves, being content with what I know and who I am. That has not happened lately and frankly, every time I turn around something or someone is figuratively slapping me in the face. Criticism...left and right. Stingers about my unruly kids, some ridiculous mess about a swim team, where my kids are swimming, questioning how much I really care about my kids, how much time I am spending away from my house, or too much time devoted to a worth cause, whispers of my name with darting eyes...yes, I see it.
I guess I have come to the conclusion that I am around a lot of people who are still relatively new to me. They don't know me and my heart - just as I don't know theirs. Therefore, they interpret actions, statements, etc. to be very different than my intentions. Gossip, morals, values, life's purposes and foci - all swirling around into some really bizarre and challenging outcomes and situations. I feel very out of sorts in every environment this summer. The perception is that I misstep at every turn and there is some sort of satisfaction at it being pointed out to me.
Maybe stick a fork in me. I am D-O-N-E.
Monday, June 21, 2010
Summer slows the writing down. I haven't been inspired to put my thoughts down because really life has been churning out much of the same incidents and routines. Well, except for the baby bird I found in Sadie's bed which she had been caring for about 4 days or so. But, really, that isn't very shocking for those that have frequented this blog. I was turned away from writing because I felt it was turning into "My Outstanding Kids." Of course, I know they are, but I don't need to write about them every time, now do I?
However, and there is always that word in my posts, events over the past week have changed a little of that and so I am ready to write this evening at 12:09 since I cannot sleep.
Humanity is disappointing. Though that sounds like a cynics statement, I find it almost uplifting. Because in every way that humanity fails, which is does constantly, God does not. My hope has to be found in Him, because otherwise, life would be a constant downer. There is nothing better than rising above the fray and soaring through life on His wind. Absolutely nothing.
And yet, I sit here, surprised that I have allowed myself to fall under the trappings of this world again. Trying to go through life with a teflon coating on is impossible. You have to feel, but when those feelings push you to act in anger or hurt, the ending result has never, ever been a positive one. At least in my experience.
Today seemed to be a culmination of several difficult situations around me coming to a head. It is one of those weeks where I want to hide out in my house until the storm of information is over, the latest shocking revelation has died. I want to pretend that the hurtful and hateful things that are occurring are not and those I love are happy and safe. I have done well maintaining composure and even some decorum. I know, shocking. Now, however, my heart is racing and hot. My thoughts seek out revenge. Someone must be put in their place.
Showing grace is a more difficult path than dismissing someone altogether. It says I am willing to put aside my own emotions in exchange for letting God take control and trusting the battle for one of His own is His. I pray tonight that I can have peace that God's will has been done. His will is perfect and therefore should receive all of my trust. Humanity will always disappoint. My hope is in Him alone. But, God, could you ease up on the weight of the disappointments...just a little?
However, and there is always that word in my posts, events over the past week have changed a little of that and so I am ready to write this evening at 12:09 since I cannot sleep.
Humanity is disappointing. Though that sounds like a cynics statement, I find it almost uplifting. Because in every way that humanity fails, which is does constantly, God does not. My hope has to be found in Him, because otherwise, life would be a constant downer. There is nothing better than rising above the fray and soaring through life on His wind. Absolutely nothing.
And yet, I sit here, surprised that I have allowed myself to fall under the trappings of this world again. Trying to go through life with a teflon coating on is impossible. You have to feel, but when those feelings push you to act in anger or hurt, the ending result has never, ever been a positive one. At least in my experience.
Today seemed to be a culmination of several difficult situations around me coming to a head. It is one of those weeks where I want to hide out in my house until the storm of information is over, the latest shocking revelation has died. I want to pretend that the hurtful and hateful things that are occurring are not and those I love are happy and safe. I have done well maintaining composure and even some decorum. I know, shocking. Now, however, my heart is racing and hot. My thoughts seek out revenge. Someone must be put in their place.
Showing grace is a more difficult path than dismissing someone altogether. It says I am willing to put aside my own emotions in exchange for letting God take control and trusting the battle for one of His own is His. I pray tonight that I can have peace that God's will has been done. His will is perfect and therefore should receive all of my trust. Humanity will always disappoint. My hope is in Him alone. But, God, could you ease up on the weight of the disappointments...just a little?
Thursday, June 10, 2010
After a week of feeling like my head was swirling around in a toilet, I think I am finally back on track. Not that I actually know how feels, but it seems like an apt description. My mind and body could not get wrapped around what day it was, what hour it was and what it was that I was supposed to do. I don't recall jet lag every having that effect on me, so maybe it is age.
I spent more time at pools this week than I think I have during any other time in my life. So much so that I am already a little dulled by it all. We have too many swimming options, practice options and opportunities to get wet that I am not making sound choices for the family. We must have some family time and this week it didn't happen. In fact, I am not sure I had a complete conversation with Jay all week. He never did get back on track with eastern standard time this week, often falling into bed at 8 pm and waking up at 4 am. Maybe I should have been the trooper and gotten up with him, but given how cantankerous I am in the morning, it would have been counterproductive.
Lily begins cheerleading camp this week. She is over the moon with this idea and she more than has the voice volume for it. She is the child that I am constantly telling, "Indoor voice, Lily. Use your indoor voice." Should be interesting. Swimming has not gone quite as I expected. I think the two weeks off from practice, the noise and lack of preparation for the meet on my part left her quite in a panic. At her first race, she jumped in a little late, came up for her first breath, heard all the noise and panicked. She promptly started crying and clung to the lane rope. I could do nothing but stand there and try to encourage her to keep swimming or get out. Basically, I was no help. Eventually, she swam under the lane line to the side and got out. We have at least gotten her back in the water and it appears her self-confidence is back. She can certainly swim the length of the pool, but came completely frozen when it came time to actually doing it when it counted. Could be a long summer ahead on the swim team.
I spent more time at pools this week than I think I have during any other time in my life. So much so that I am already a little dulled by it all. We have too many swimming options, practice options and opportunities to get wet that I am not making sound choices for the family. We must have some family time and this week it didn't happen. In fact, I am not sure I had a complete conversation with Jay all week. He never did get back on track with eastern standard time this week, often falling into bed at 8 pm and waking up at 4 am. Maybe I should have been the trooper and gotten up with him, but given how cantankerous I am in the morning, it would have been counterproductive.
Lily begins cheerleading camp this week. She is over the moon with this idea and she more than has the voice volume for it. She is the child that I am constantly telling, "Indoor voice, Lily. Use your indoor voice." Should be interesting. Swimming has not gone quite as I expected. I think the two weeks off from practice, the noise and lack of preparation for the meet on my part left her quite in a panic. At her first race, she jumped in a little late, came up for her first breath, heard all the noise and panicked. She promptly started crying and clung to the lane rope. I could do nothing but stand there and try to encourage her to keep swimming or get out. Basically, I was no help. Eventually, she swam under the lane line to the side and got out. We have at least gotten her back in the water and it appears her self-confidence is back. She can certainly swim the length of the pool, but came completely frozen when it came time to actually doing it when it counted. Could be a long summer ahead on the swim team.
Tuesday, June 08, 2010
School ends and summer begins
We are home from our vacation which turned out to be one, if not the best, trip we have had to visit Jay's parents. Maybe it is the kids getting older, I don't know. But, the trip was easy, the weather great and I came home pretty satisfied with what we did.
It is a little strange to come home and see that summer is in full swing. School was still in when we departed. It is hard to wrap my head around our summer schedule. I have a few updates regarding the kids and will forgo writing about any more travel details for now.
Miss Lily has completed her first year of school with flying colors. Her teachers felt that Lily had a tremendous year of growth in terms of behavior and adjusting to school life. She went from asking not to go every morning to crying that it was over and she wouldn't see her friends and her teachers. At the year end assembly, Lily was given the "Loving Heart" award for her class. She was thrilled with this award as she said, "No one else got Loving Heart as their award." On her last day of school, the teacher had her sit in front of the class and her classmates were asked to make a comment about Lily. The teacher said they all talked about Lily's loveliness and sweetness.
Lily took her first standardized test this year as well. We do not have the results, yet. However, when I asked how she did, Lily announced to me, "I got them all right." I asked how she knew and she said, "I answered them all and they were right!" I love her confidence. She loves to color, do anything musical and spend time looking at books and reading.
On our trip, Lily lost her first top tooth. The tooth fairy came all the way to France to visit her in the night. Unfortunately, the tooth fairy misread some Euro coins in the dark of night which resulted in Lily receiving quite a bit more than what is normally doled out to the Dumoulin children! The other front tooth is extremely loose so I imagine it will be out within a couple of days. Sometimes it is difficult to understand what Lily is saying, so I predict no front teeth will put me in the position of translator.
She was fantastic on the plane ride on our trip. No whining, crying, or any other issues. It was so completely opposite from our last trip. Of course, that was three years ago. What a difference! She loved being with Jay's parents and despite many requests to sit beside me in the car or sit beside me at the table, she was open to whatever activities they had planned for the day. One note on the trip - a slightly bizarre one at that - Lily, age 5, had a day of, hmmm, how do I say this delicately? Well, she had a day where she stunk, literally. Body odor. I was so taken by surprise. I have no idea if this is a permanent situation or some freaky, I have had too much cheese intake, sort of thing. I can hardly get her to brush her teeth every day so I can't fathom deodorant. But, at 5 years old?!?!
Lily' favorite parts of the trip were the Efteling (European-type Disney) and kinder eggs (a hollow chocolate egg with a little toy surprise in the middle).
My Ethan turned 10 while we were on our trip. Double digits. Growing too quickly for me, of course. He finished out the year strong being identified by Duke University's TIP (Talent Identification Program). Despite this, Ethan could work on staying a bit more focused. His teacher diplomatically says, "I could deal with Ethan being a bit more present in the classroom." However, I am most content with his spiritual growth. He was walking around France reciting the verses he learned this year. He discovered his favorite verse and has claimed it for his own.
The trip to Europe was an eye-opening one for him. He was much more aware of the differences between our countries and asked countless "why?" questions. Many times I couldn't quite come up with a well-thought out answer particularly when he wondered why the teenage girls in France wore only speedos to the lake and not tops. Yikes! His favorite parts of the trip were his trip to the Efteling (a sort of European Disney) and the Romange '14-'18, a museum in which everything in it was found within a 3 km distance from the museum, all from WWI and recreated to look like battlefields and bunkers along with many interesting tidbits about life during the war.
Despite growing up, I still get requests for some snuggle time and time alone with mom. However, I am not allowed to show him any public displays of affection beyond a nice little side hug. Ethan loves to play his DSi, build with Legos and of course, swim. He is always more interested in hanging out with his friends and is starting to find his little sisters somewhat of a pain if they follow him around or copy him in any way. Many times this is the source of their arguing and fighting which at times escalates to WWIII levels. It should also be noted that his interest in the opposite sex is beginning to grow. This should be interesting.
His heart still leans toward servanthood, but I am beginning seeing a bit more resistance lately than I have in the past. In the personal section of his North Carolina notebook, Ethan wrote that he hopes to be a pastor when he grows up. I don't know that this will materialize, but I do know that he has a heart of mercy that Jay and I do not. He is compassionate and sensitive to others' feelings which are essential to that line of work. Who knows?!?
Ethan is quite excited about swimming this summer. The unknown and anxiety of the swim team is long over, replaced by competency and confidence. Our first day at the pool yesterday yielded quite a bit of self-assurance as he reconnected with old pool pals and found a comfortable place.
Sadie is still very much Sadie. She finished the school year very strong academically and received the Leadership award. She also received the National Fitness Award for achieving certain physical standards for her age. Still quite my challenging child, I see much progress being made in her ability to self-control. I am understanding that much has to do with the excitement level of the situation and how much preparation I have given her before the event or circumstance she is going to have to deal with. However, I also know that this is Sadie and as much as we practice and teach, she will always have to deal with her highly impulsive nature.
I have had second thoughts regarding homeschooling her. I don't know why, but I am sure that it is normal to go through these cycles. The school made it clear they will not be able to offer Sadie any additional work, academically. After seeing her tests scores, Jay and I know another year languishing around is not good mentally, and certainly not behaviorally. Some of our school books for next year have been purchased and we are waiting for a call from the store to let us know when the next ones have arrived.
Sadie makes friends very easily and finds it natural to talk to kids, teenagers and adults with ease. She loves to draw, play outside and swim. She is very determined and has an incredible ability to learn visually, picking up details and clues most miss. She is eerily similar to Jay in that she dreams and imagines these great scenarios along with solutions..and then actually executes them.
She loves, loves, loves animals and is currently going through an obsession with birds. She combs through books identifying the birds outside and wants desperately to catch one to "observe" it. I completely envision her house filled with animals when she is an adult.
She also loved the trip to Europe. She cried the night before we had to leave. There is so much about Jay's parents place in France that fits her perfectly. So much area to explore, many places to walk and fill her senses to the brim. She nearly caught a duckling at the lake on our last day. Thank goodness she didn't as she honestly thought she would be able to bring the duck home to the U.S. to raise!!! Her favorite part about the trip was having hot tea with Oma every day.
Overall, the trip served as a fantastic bonding time between Jay's parents and the kids. Slightly overindulgent, i.e. three ice creams and chips for dinner on the last night, Oma (grandmother) was exactly what I expected for a grandmother who deeply loves her grandchildren and wants to makes up for lost time. The house in France, in particular, is filled to the top with pictures of the kids on every wall. The kids love her and Opa just as deeply and it warmed my heart to see that even though they may only see each other once a year or even less, they do have a close relationship.
Now, let the summer officially begin!
It is a little strange to come home and see that summer is in full swing. School was still in when we departed. It is hard to wrap my head around our summer schedule. I have a few updates regarding the kids and will forgo writing about any more travel details for now.
Miss Lily has completed her first year of school with flying colors. Her teachers felt that Lily had a tremendous year of growth in terms of behavior and adjusting to school life. She went from asking not to go every morning to crying that it was over and she wouldn't see her friends and her teachers. At the year end assembly, Lily was given the "Loving Heart" award for her class. She was thrilled with this award as she said, "No one else got Loving Heart as their award." On her last day of school, the teacher had her sit in front of the class and her classmates were asked to make a comment about Lily. The teacher said they all talked about Lily's loveliness and sweetness.
Lily took her first standardized test this year as well. We do not have the results, yet. However, when I asked how she did, Lily announced to me, "I got them all right." I asked how she knew and she said, "I answered them all and they were right!" I love her confidence. She loves to color, do anything musical and spend time looking at books and reading.
On our trip, Lily lost her first top tooth. The tooth fairy came all the way to France to visit her in the night. Unfortunately, the tooth fairy misread some Euro coins in the dark of night which resulted in Lily receiving quite a bit more than what is normally doled out to the Dumoulin children! The other front tooth is extremely loose so I imagine it will be out within a couple of days. Sometimes it is difficult to understand what Lily is saying, so I predict no front teeth will put me in the position of translator.
She was fantastic on the plane ride on our trip. No whining, crying, or any other issues. It was so completely opposite from our last trip. Of course, that was three years ago. What a difference! She loved being with Jay's parents and despite many requests to sit beside me in the car or sit beside me at the table, she was open to whatever activities they had planned for the day. One note on the trip - a slightly bizarre one at that - Lily, age 5, had a day of, hmmm, how do I say this delicately? Well, she had a day where she stunk, literally. Body odor. I was so taken by surprise. I have no idea if this is a permanent situation or some freaky, I have had too much cheese intake, sort of thing. I can hardly get her to brush her teeth every day so I can't fathom deodorant. But, at 5 years old?!?!
Lily' favorite parts of the trip were the Efteling (European-type Disney) and kinder eggs (a hollow chocolate egg with a little toy surprise in the middle).
My Ethan turned 10 while we were on our trip. Double digits. Growing too quickly for me, of course. He finished out the year strong being identified by Duke University's TIP (Talent Identification Program). Despite this, Ethan could work on staying a bit more focused. His teacher diplomatically says, "I could deal with Ethan being a bit more present in the classroom." However, I am most content with his spiritual growth. He was walking around France reciting the verses he learned this year. He discovered his favorite verse and has claimed it for his own.
The trip to Europe was an eye-opening one for him. He was much more aware of the differences between our countries and asked countless "why?" questions. Many times I couldn't quite come up with a well-thought out answer particularly when he wondered why the teenage girls in France wore only speedos to the lake and not tops. Yikes! His favorite parts of the trip were his trip to the Efteling (a sort of European Disney) and the Romange '14-'18, a museum in which everything in it was found within a 3 km distance from the museum, all from WWI and recreated to look like battlefields and bunkers along with many interesting tidbits about life during the war.
Despite growing up, I still get requests for some snuggle time and time alone with mom. However, I am not allowed to show him any public displays of affection beyond a nice little side hug. Ethan loves to play his DSi, build with Legos and of course, swim. He is always more interested in hanging out with his friends and is starting to find his little sisters somewhat of a pain if they follow him around or copy him in any way. Many times this is the source of their arguing and fighting which at times escalates to WWIII levels. It should also be noted that his interest in the opposite sex is beginning to grow. This should be interesting.
His heart still leans toward servanthood, but I am beginning seeing a bit more resistance lately than I have in the past. In the personal section of his North Carolina notebook, Ethan wrote that he hopes to be a pastor when he grows up. I don't know that this will materialize, but I do know that he has a heart of mercy that Jay and I do not. He is compassionate and sensitive to others' feelings which are essential to that line of work. Who knows?!?
Ethan is quite excited about swimming this summer. The unknown and anxiety of the swim team is long over, replaced by competency and confidence. Our first day at the pool yesterday yielded quite a bit of self-assurance as he reconnected with old pool pals and found a comfortable place.
Sadie is still very much Sadie. She finished the school year very strong academically and received the Leadership award. She also received the National Fitness Award for achieving certain physical standards for her age. Still quite my challenging child, I see much progress being made in her ability to self-control. I am understanding that much has to do with the excitement level of the situation and how much preparation I have given her before the event or circumstance she is going to have to deal with. However, I also know that this is Sadie and as much as we practice and teach, she will always have to deal with her highly impulsive nature.
I have had second thoughts regarding homeschooling her. I don't know why, but I am sure that it is normal to go through these cycles. The school made it clear they will not be able to offer Sadie any additional work, academically. After seeing her tests scores, Jay and I know another year languishing around is not good mentally, and certainly not behaviorally. Some of our school books for next year have been purchased and we are waiting for a call from the store to let us know when the next ones have arrived.
Sadie makes friends very easily and finds it natural to talk to kids, teenagers and adults with ease. She loves to draw, play outside and swim. She is very determined and has an incredible ability to learn visually, picking up details and clues most miss. She is eerily similar to Jay in that she dreams and imagines these great scenarios along with solutions..and then actually executes them.
She loves, loves, loves animals and is currently going through an obsession with birds. She combs through books identifying the birds outside and wants desperately to catch one to "observe" it. I completely envision her house filled with animals when she is an adult.
She also loved the trip to Europe. She cried the night before we had to leave. There is so much about Jay's parents place in France that fits her perfectly. So much area to explore, many places to walk and fill her senses to the brim. She nearly caught a duckling at the lake on our last day. Thank goodness she didn't as she honestly thought she would be able to bring the duck home to the U.S. to raise!!! Her favorite part about the trip was having hot tea with Oma every day.
Overall, the trip served as a fantastic bonding time between Jay's parents and the kids. Slightly overindulgent, i.e. three ice creams and chips for dinner on the last night, Oma (grandmother) was exactly what I expected for a grandmother who deeply loves her grandchildren and wants to makes up for lost time. The house in France, in particular, is filled to the top with pictures of the kids on every wall. The kids love her and Opa just as deeply and it warmed my heart to see that even though they may only see each other once a year or even less, they do have a close relationship.
Now, let the summer officially begin!
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